BUYING” HUSBANDS TO BREAK THE LAW OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8 – (THE HUSBAND BUYERS)
6016. JOURNEY INTO MARRIAGE (PART 2) – “BUYING” HUSBANDS TO BREAK THE LAW OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8 – (THE HUSBAND BUYERS)
DAUGHTER: “Good Afternoon daddy, My question is this…”
2. 1 Timothy 5:8
(New International Version)
“Anyone who DOES NOT PROVIDE FOR THEIR RELATIVES, AND ESPECIALLY FOR THEIR OWN HOUSEHOLD, has denied the faith and is WORSE THAN AN UNBELIEVER.”
(New Living Translation)
“But those who WON’T CARE FOR THEIR RELATIVES, ESPECIALLY THOSE IN THEIR OWN HOUSEHOLD, have denied the true faith. Such people are WORSE THAN UNBELIEVERS.”
(English Standard Version)
“But if anyone DOES NOT PROVIDE FOR HIS RELATIVES, and ESPECIALLY FOR MEMBERS OF HIS HOUSEHOLD, he has denied the faith and is WORSE THAN AN UNBELIEVER.”
(Berean Study Bible)
“If anyone does not PROVIDE FOR HIS OWN, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith and is WORSE THAN AN UNBELIEVER.”
(Berean Literal Bible)
“Now if anyone does not provide for the own, and especially his household, he has denied the faith and is WORSE THAN AN UNBELIEVER.”
(New American Standard Bible)
“But if anyone does not PROVIDE FOR HIS OWN, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is WORSE THAN AN UNBELIEVER.”
(King James Bible)
“But if any PROVIDE NOT FOR HIS OWN, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL.”
THE LAW OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8 IS A DEEP MYSTERY. THAT SCRIPTURE CARRIES THE ROD OF EVERLASTING TROUBLES AND TRIBULATIONS. I HAVE LOST COUNTS OF MANY FAMILIES WHOSE FOUNDATIONS WERE STARTED ON THE INVERSION OF THAT SCRIPTURE AND 30 OR MORE YEARS LATER, NO MATTER THE LEVEL OF RELOCATION OR ECONOMIC PROSPERITY IN THE LIVES OF THAT COUPLE, THE ROD OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8 NEVER DEPARTED FROM THEM. IT KEEPS BEATING THEM WHEREVER THEY GO, AND NO LEVEL OF FINANCIAL BREAKTHROUGHS COULD SAVE THE COUPLE THAT BREAK THE LAW OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8
4. THAT PROFOUND SCRIPTURE SPEAKS ABOUT A STRANGE AND UNPOPULAR BUT DIVINE DOCTRINE.
THAT SCRIPTURE SHOWED US THAT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT MUST ENDURE IN A MARRIAGE IS NEITHER S*X, NOR LOVE, NOR PROCREATION, NOR COMPANIONSHIP.
THAT SCRIPTURE PUTS ONE RARE WORD THAT IS NOT POPULAR IN LIFE AS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN MARRIAGES.
THAT WORD IS CALLED: “R-E-S-P-O-N-S-I-B-I-L-I-T-Y”
5. BEFORE ANY COUPLE COULD FALL IN LOVE, BEFORE THEY START ANY COURTSHIP, IN FACT, BEFORE ANY OF THEM CLAIMS “THUS SAITH THE LORD, THAT YOU ARE MY WIFE OR MY HUSBAND.”
THE FIRST THING THAT MUST BE IN PLACE IS WHAT THAT SCRIPTURE CALLED SUSTAINABLE PROVISIONAL INCOME OF THE HUSBAND-TO-BE.
IF THE MAN DOES NOT HAVE A JOB OR A LEGITIMATE INCOME, THAT CAN SUSTAIN A WIFE OR PROVIDE FOR HER AND CHILDREN OF THAT FAMILY, GOD SAID THERE’S NO MARRIAGE, OR THE MARRIAGE IS A FLUKE😭😭😭.
IF GOD SAID THE MAN HAS “…DENIED THE FAITH AND WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL…” IT MEANS, IT IS BETTER TO BE WIFE NUMBER 5 TO A MOSLEM CLERIC OR WIFE TO A PAGAN PRIEST OF A DARK COVEN. 😭😭😭
THIS IS VERY DEEP BUT WE MUST UNRAVEL THIS TRUTH OF SCRIPTURE.
“DENIED THE FAITH” MEANS HE MAN IS NOT BORN AGAIN NOR GODFEARING.
“WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL” MEANS THE WORST CASE SCENARIOS OF UNGODLINESS AND WICKEDNESS ARE FAR BETTER THAN THAT MAN’S IRRESPONSIBILITY.
6. NOW, TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION: BY GOD’S ORDINANCE, ADAM WAS THE OWNER OF THE HOME. GOD GAVE HIM A SUSTAINABLE JOB THAT COULD TAKE CARE OF HIS WIFE BEFORE GOD BROUGHT A WIFE CALLED EVE TO HIM.
THE WIFE IS A HELPER FIT FOR HIS DESTINY. THE WIFE IS NOT THE OWNER OF THE HOME, THE WIFE IS NOT THE OWNER OF THE FAMILY. THE MAN IS THE OWNER. THAT’S WHY THAT SCRIPTURE SAYS “PROVIDE FOR HIS OWN”!
IF THE MAN IS ON AN AVERAGE INCOME OF $1,000 MONTHLY, AND THE WIFE IS EARNING $5,000 INCOME. THE LAW OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8 FORBIDS GREED OR LUST. IT IS THE LAW OF GODLY AND RESPONSIBLE CONTENTMENT.
THAT LAW SAYS THE MAN IS THE PROVIDER FOR HIS HOUSEHOLD. THE WIFE IS JUST THE HELPER. AND THE HELPER MUST NEVER BE THE PROVIDER!
THE BIG-INCOME WIFE MUST HUMBLE HERSELF BY SUBMITTING HERSELF TO THE AUTHORITY OF THE OWNER OF THE HOME AND LIVING HER LIFESTYLE “WITHIN” THE LOWER INCOME OF HER HUSBAND. SHE MUST LIVE WITHIN THE MEANS AND PROVISIONAL INCOME OF HER HUSBAND WITHOUT GREED OR LUST AFTER UNRIGHTEOUS MAMMON.
WHAT HAPPENS TO THE “UNTOUCHED” BIG INCOME OF THE WIFE?
TWO THINGS CAN BE INFERRED FROM SCRIPTURES CONCERNING WHAT MUST HAPPEN TO THE BIG INCOME OF THE WIFE.
A: LOVE MUST HAPPEN: THE WIFE IS NOT COMMANDED BY SCRIPTURE TO LOVE HER HUSBAND. SHE IS COMMANDED TO SUBMIT TO HER HUSBAND (COLOSIANS 3:18; EPHESIANS 5:2-24)… IT IS THE HUSBAND THAT SCRIPTURE COMMANDED TO LOVE HIS WIFE (COLOSIANS 3:19; EPHESIANS 5:25).
IF THE HUSBAND IS DISCIPLINED AND NOT THE GREEDY TYPE, BUT TRULY LOVES HIS WIFE, ALL OF THE WIFE’S BIG INCOME SHOULD BE SEEN AS A FAMILY BONUS ( AFTER THE WIFE HAS PAID HER TITHE OUT OF IT) PUT IN SAVINGS THAT ACCRUES TO A FUTURE CAPITAL FOR FAMILY INVESTMENT FOR RAINY DAYS LIKE CASES OF POSSIBLE TEMPORARY UNEMPLOYMENT OF HUSBAND ( WHETHER INTO NEW PROFIT GENERATING PROPERTIES OR STOCKS ETC.) THAT MUST BEAR THE WIFE’S NAME.
THAT DECISION IS THE GREATEST DECISION FOR FUTURE MARITAL STABILITY ANY COUPLE CAN JOINTLY TAKE FOR AN ENDURING, HALLOWED AND BLISSFUL MATRIMONY.
B: 49% JUNIOR PARTNERSHIP: THIS SECOND OPTION IS NOT COMFORTABLE WITH ME. I’M NOT COMFORTABLE WITH IT. IF THE MAN’S INCOME CANNOT SUSTAIN OR “PROVIDE” FOR HIS HOUSEHOLD, IT IS ABSOLUTELY WRONG TO TELL THE WIFE TO COME AND CONTRIBUTE HER OWN QUOTA TO HOUSEHOLD EXPENDITURES.
IF THIS HAPPENS, IT SHOULD BE A TEMPORARY MEASURE UNTIL THE HUSBAND GETS A BETTER JOB THAT EARNS BETTER INCOME THAT IS PROVISIONALLY SUFFICIENT FOR SUSTAINING HIS OWN HOUSEHOLD.
IF AT ALL, FOR ANY REASON WHATSOEVER, THE WIFE MUST HELP BY CONTRIBUTING TO HOUSEHOLD EXPENDITURES, ALBEIT, TEMPORARILY, IT MUST NEVER BE MORE THAN 49% OF THE HUSBAND’S INCOME. IF IT IS MORE, THEN, THE WIFE IS NO LONGER THE HELPER, SHE HAS BECOME THE PROXY “OWNER” AND RULER/LEADER OF THE HOME. AND THIS IS A BREACH OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8. AND EVERY BREACH OF SCRIPTURAL LAWS IS ALWAYS PENALISED BY GOD IN DIVERSE WAYS. THE JUNIOR PARTNER SHOULD NEVER TAKEOVER THE CONTROLLING SHARES OF 51+% OF HOUSEHOLD EXPENDITURES!
THAT IS WHY ALMOST EVERY HOME WHERE THE WIFE EARNS MORE THAN THE HUSBAND ARE ROCKED BY INFIDELITY AND INSTABILITY. ONLY THE HOME THAT OBEYS THE LAW OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8 FLOURISH AND THRIVE BECAUSE OF GODLY FEAR AND CONTENTMENT WHICH IS GREAT GAIN ( 1 TIMOTHY 6:6). SELAH
THE ONLY EXCEPTION TO THE LAW OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8 IS CASES OF HUSBAND BEING UNEMPLOYED AFTER MARRIAGE AND NOT BEFORE MARRIAGE.
IN THIS CASE, THE WIFE COMES IN AS READY AND RESERVED HELPER, EVEN IF THE MAN IS UNEMPLOYED TEMPORARILY FOR A YEAR OR AT MOST TWO YEARS. IF UNEMPLOYMENT PERSIST BEYOND TWO YEARS, THAT’S NO LONGER TEMPORARY, AND THE COUPLE MUST SEEK THE FACE OF GOD TO TERMINATE ANY PROLONGED HARDSHIPS OR DISCOMFORTS OF UNEMPLOYMENT OF THE MAN.
7. STILL ANSWERING YOUR QUESTIONS. IF THE MAN CHOSE TO “…DENY THE FAITH..”, AND PLAY THE ROLE “…WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL…”, BY REFUSING RESPONSIBILITY OF PRIORITISING AND PROVISIONING FOR HIS IMMEDIATE FAMILY AND HOUSEHOLD FIRST, THE WIFE IS FREE TO USE HER BIG INCOME TO PROVIDE FOR THE HOUSEHOLD, BUT THAT WOULD NOT SPARE THAT FAMILY FROM THE CONSEQUENCES OF INFIDELITY, INSTABILITY AND EVEN OTHER AFFLICTIONS, BY REASON OF THE BREACH OF THE LAW OF 1 TIMOTHY 5:8.
THE MOST DREADFUL CONSEQUENCES I HAVE WITNESSED IN REAL LIFE CASES ARE WHERE THE WIFE “SYMPATHETICALLY” PROVIDED ESCAPE FROM UNEMPLOYMENT OF HER FIANCÉ, BY GOING AHEAD TO SPONSOR THE WEDDING, RENTING ACCOMMODATIONS, OR EVEN PUMPING MONEY TO SET UP THE HUSBAND-TO-BE IN BUSINESS.
I SAID DREADFUL BECAUSE, IN OVER 40 YEARS OF THEIR MARITAL UNION, THE MAN NEVER ROSE TO PROSPERITY, HE NEVER DID WELL FINANCIALLY. AND IN THE FEW CASES WHERE SUCH MEN HIT FINANCIAL JACKPOTS, THEY WERE NEVER FAITHFUL TO THEIR WIVES, THEY NEVER BECAME RESPONSIBLE TO PROVIDE FOR THEIR FAMILIES BECAUSE, THEY HAVE NEVER DONE IT BEFORE, RIGHT FROM THE INCEPTION OF THAT MARRIAGE. THEY RATHER DIVERTED THE SURPLUS FINANCIAL BLESSINGS INTO SERVICING STRANGE WOMEN OR INDULGING IN STRANGE COMPULSIVE HABITS LIKE GAMBLING AND OTHER UNGODLY ADDICTIONS.