HMID. I have a question. I started dating a man. At the time he and his babymother were about to separate. Shortly after that they did, and I became the significant other. Mind you I wasn’t intimate with him until he officially man me his personal woman. After some time I noticed his babymother wanting back in, though he repeated over and over that he wouldn’t go back there even if he and I didn’t work out. I’ll be at the house and she’ll keep calling him though he refused to answer Infront of me. She would text him saying she hopes I love him etc, and asking him for another chance because she dedicated years of her life to him. Pinky I was not there before he started his house or owned a vehicle. That does not mean I loved him any less. If I met him then I’d have loved him the same. But anyways… She broke in the house while he and I were out on a date, and turned the place inside out. Pinky as far as I’ve heard from his mouth and others is that during the years they have been together all that lady did was take from him and pull him down. Never contributed to his growth. I left the house and is at my house Pinky and I started noticing some strange movements. Eventually found out he took her in. Ago tell me she was living with a friend and had nowhere to go as the friend wanted her out. And that he’s not happy he was just struggling by himself taking care of the kids (one his, one not his who he raised and she left for him to take care of). Ago tell me he didn’t want to add more pressure to me. I’ve never felt so hurt and disrespected. This man ago tell me she begged for another chance and that he considered it based on the years and kids. Now is stating he is confused, and made a mistake taking her back in. And wants me to wait on him while he gets his shit together. I told him I won’t play side, and is not intimate with him. Though we’ve seen each other a few times since he did what he did. I just want your take, and I don’t want to be judged. I haven’t been with another man, though I kinda hinted to him I am when he asked because he was showing signs of jealousy. Question… Do you think our situation can be fixed. I genuinely care for this man. But I am not fool, and won’t be waiting on him to see my worth. If he does what he claims and get her out, can I forgive him for this?
Sender I wish you gave a background like your age group and whether you have children. My honest opinion if you stay you will most likely get hurt continuously. This man has an attachment with him baby mother and the baby mother is also experiencing the same thing as well, will mostly like always be involved with him.
The person who will have a lot to loose is you and tbh I always discourage people to start any form of relationship with someone in situations similar to this. Why? Because your a rebound and it doesn’t matter what is said eventually you will see the outcome when your deep in.
Please prioritise your self first, and just know it’s your decision regardless. Good luck!
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