I would like to take the time out to thank the young man for submitting this..It is always good to see things from a different angle and this is an interesting one!
Hail Met,
I’ve pondered sending in this story for quite a while now,however the recent story abt Twinny having her baby who is unwanted by the dad,prompted me.Its important to note that women were supportive n saw twinny’s perspective. That’s kool but if we are to be fair n split justice shouldn’t we get the Dad’s version?? Well I hope to do so by giving my perspective thru my real life story as follows:
So I met this chick online n we were kool but she kept insisting we meet up n take it to another level.I will always insist that guys need to use condoms but I’m going a step further to say keep it on even after u buss cuz of what happened to me. So I’m using my condom n got caught up in some porno bs money shot move! The one where u take off the condom n spray her belly or breasts.
So I went for belly then she got up n I notice she was taking quite a while in the bathroom so me whappie pon her n lo n behold!! I see this chick rubbing in my sperms in her lovebox!!! The KEY to this whole story is that at that moment she DIDNT see me! After a month passed we broke up then 2wks into May she whatsapp me with pics of her “6wks belly”
Imma save the pics for a next time but the alarm bells went crazy off cuz the belly looked more like 3-4months.Here now I present the man’s view n ppl be fair? We were having problems cuz knowing what I knew it was very hard 4 me to accept her deception!I put my pride aside n supported her financially though not emotionally!
All the ppl who believe in God,know that God’s will supercede ours so if he doesn’t want a ting happen it won’t no matter what we say! Forgive me for saying but God doesn’t like ugly n in the 3rd month she lost the baby due to high blood pressure!
That’s why I say bitter sweet cuz on one hand I came to terms with it n was looking forward to having my 1st son.More importantly the birth of a child is a blessing while the loss is the ultimate pain n hurt.
I can’t help feeling that God see n know dat is friggery she gwaan wid n his punishment was that her plan to trap me failed n it’s unfortunate a innocent baby lost out but Only God knows why him rule she not worthy! The last update I got kinda cleared up the impossible 6wks big belly cuz it turns out she lost TWINS!
Again I say it’s kool to commiserate with Twinny n I really do but I can’t help wondering what’s the situation why the dad doesn’t want the baby.
What if like me he suspected she did a breed b4 n a try give him a jacket?Sperms r suppose to die once exposed in open air!
In closing anybody n everybody free to say anything be it fair or unfair but try to see the other perspective n try fi split justice!
I missed n reflect sadly on what could’ve been 4 me n those kids but on the other hand im relieved that a blood sucking,decietful succubus didn’t became the mother of my kids!
Best regards
some young women take more time to pick out a pair of shoes, than finding a suitable father for their child. Just because your having sex with a man does not mean the man wants you permenantly in his life. When women learn to distinguish this, they will be better off. A man may see you as a great sex partner. But does not want you to be the mother of his child. Contraception and condoms are essential. Especially if both parties have not sat down and decided they are both ready to embark on parenthood together. Some women think a unexpected pregnancy will solidify the relationship, when it does the opposite. Men need to be honest about what they are expecting out of the relationship, and women should be realistic . Too many children who are getting some financial support but because the father feels he was tricked or pressured into fatherhood has emotionally detached himself from his child. I feel a degree of sorrow for Twinny but as the young man said, the perspective of the father also should be considered.
entrapment pregnancy I never see something I hate so damn much,forcing a man to be a dad by stealing his sperms in which ever way possible…i think if the man can prove that his sperm was stolen the woman suda be penalized for it in some form of way for it after all it is robbery.
Met, is you change di man ting to “lovebox”? Yuh shudden dweet :ngakak
As I told a girl I know, men rarely deviate from their mindset where children are concerned. If he told you from the jump off that he doesn’t want a child, more than likely, he doesn’t want a child & will not change when you are pregnant or after the baby is born. Sad, but many times true & to the detriment of the child. If we get careless, or as this story suggests, just impregnate ourselves for whatever reason & the man decides to bounce we must be fully cognizant of the fact that will be left with the child, so we need to make our reproductive decisions based on these little facts, not on bombarding a man into being a father when he clearly didn’t want to be, because daddy’s maybe is mommy’s baby. As for the men, unuh stop depend on women to protect unuh from unwanted pregnancies. If unuh don’t want baby, no money shot or release of nutten outside di condom.
Me???????no oooooooooooo him seh love box ooo
I think sometimes these women forget that the man who impregnates you doesn’t have to be a father to your child and you will always have to be a mother. If ppl bear that in mind they would not try to entrap men. The money that fathers are asked to pay in financial support isn’t just basic – truly can’t even buy a proper outfit so it’s time women review this strategy and consider in null.
If a pregnancy happens by accident then I can see why a man may say I don’t want to be involved and you have up to 5 days to make this discussion and take actions! No excuse women.
Young Man obviously you didn’t grow up in the 90’s dunno how 90’s kids are having sex and maybe that is why we are the group with the least children. We got the
Say no to sex
Using a condom can save your life
AIDS kills
And the infamous. Virgins can get pregnant – no sperm near me no rubbing on me nothing!
And no pull out cum and putting it in back . So NO sperm near the PUMS .
the worst thing a woman can do is force fatherhood on a man. a child needs both parents who wanted it from the get go, children should be planned, but just in case an oops a baby situation arise make sure both parties want it. plan B works ppl.
WOMAN DO THIS ALL THE TIME.I TOLD THIS GIRL I WAS MESSIMG WITH I DONT WANT A CHILD WITH HER AND SHE TOLD ME WHEN THE CHILD COME I SHOULD DEAL WITH IT. THE CHILD IS HERE AND I DO SUPPORT THE CHILD BUT I STILL FEEL LIKE I WAS FORCED INTO THIS SITUATION AND MONEY IS NOT ALL BECAUSE ALL THE MOENY SHE GETS SHE CALL AND ASK WHEN AM I COMING TO SEE THE CHILD AND SPEND TIME AND ALL I CAN REMEMBER IS SHE TELLING ME TO DEAL WITH IT SO THATS WHAT IM DOING. SOME WOMAN EVIL.
I’m fully aware that some “desperate” females steal sperms and trick males into getting them pregnant, which I think is a small percent of females with a delusional and controlling persona.. with that said..the only time I sympathize with a male about an unwanted pregnancy is if he’s a teenage inexperience BOY… If I’m not mistaken I thought the “Man” have the ability to create a baby don’t the female just carry around the eggs?? So even if a female lay down and have unprotected sex with a guy “HE STILL HAVE ALL THE CONTROL TO CREATE LIFE” not the female..I’m confused..why is it ok for a man to find a female have unprotected sex buss inside her then when she’s with child they runnnn nd now the female is the villain because she doesn’t want to have an abortion At his request is just bs to me.. Me nah think bout no grown ass experience man point of view him know weh him did a do when him did a fling cocky and a buss inna hole…
Excuse me anonymous 10:55, this kind of reasoning is why there are so many unwanted pregnancies. Women should and must take control of their reproductive health. That includes birth control, regular gyn visits, aids tests etc. your kind of rational is reckless and dangerous. 2 people have sex not the man alone.
Agreed..a women should take responsibility for their reproductive health gyn birth control etc but that wasn’t the topic of the conversation it’s about the male perspective of an unwanted child.. The point I was trying make is not about safe sex it’s about two consenting adults choosing to have unprotected sex “with one person being in complete control to produce life” knowing what happens when u ejaculate inside of a female..and when she get pregnant she trapped him…. How???? He was the one doing the bussing…if he didn’t want a baby wrap it up SIMPLE…. Women can’t get pregnant without sperms so birth control or not he’s in control
I honestly believe no child should come into this world by accident. Every pregnancy should be planned by both parent, so the spiritual energy that start off the child’s journey to life is a good one. When a child is unplanned there is too much negative energy surrounding the child’s life before they even get here, I don’t think this is good.
I agree Anon 10:55, it takes 2. As a man, if you don’t want a child, either you don’t have sex or you make sure you wrap it up AND dispose of your own condom. It is YOUR responsibility & your responsibility ONLY to guard your sexual health & your birth control!!!
It would be nice if we lived in a world were everybody ONLY had kids when they felt they were ready & that both parties agreed when a pregnancy happens BUT WE ALL KNOW NUTTIN NUH GUH SUH (some of the time)!!!
The ONLY person’s actions you can be ASSURED of is YOUR OWN! You CANNOT control another person’s actions!!! Most parents cannot even control dem own child/children MUCH LESS you trying to control what another adult will do!!! Just like you wouldn’t give out your ATM code to every Tom, Dick or Harry, why you giving out your sperm to Tanya, Dana & Helen???
We live inna ah world where dem want to put ALL the blame on women!!! These men need to be held accountable too!!! When you watching the news, as any harm come to a child, the 1st thing we say is “Where was di Mother?” what happened to we asking about di Father??? We have becomed so conditioned that we don’t even ask about him EVEN THOUGH he is equally responsible for the child to be here!
We must raise our sons NOT to leave it up to the woman! If we don’t, we will CONTINUE to hear stories of unwanted pregnancies, abandoned children, pregnant women being killed & nightmare child support stories, etc.
Every woman is RESPONSIBLE for her OWN egg & EVERY man is RESPONSIBLE for his own sperm!!! Once we change our mindset, then we will hear less & less stories like these!
I agree to some degree. But women will always be held to a higher standard because a woman is a life giving creature. I will even go as far to say women are naturally closer to God because of this, and more spiritually attuned by nature, the whole woman’s intuition thing is that attunement to the divine. Unfortunately, to whom much is given much is expected. God gave more of his spiritual energy to women and so the expectation on them is far greater. Remember God did not even need a man for the creation of Jesus, but he needed a woman. So women should know that they are more than just a rib, and what men want to define them to be, they are living holy vessels of the divine created to bring God into the flesh in the world.
I agree with everyone who says ITS A MAN’S RESPONSIBLE TO PROTECT HIM SELF FROM UNWANTED PREGNANCY CAUSE IT A WOMAN IN 2015 DOES NOT WANT A CHILD SHE KNOWS WHERE TO GO TO STOP THAT UNWANTED CHILD. (not all women but in most case) WEAR A DAMN CONDOM and its wanted pregnancy be true accident.
Some of these people lucky a belly them catch and not AIDS.
Men, if a woman cannot produce an IUD card. Dont cum in her. IUD is the best method now to prevent pregnancy. There is a 5 year one and a 10 year one.
Sweet, i agree with you there is a difference between just sex and wanting a relationship. These woman now are confusing the issue. Just because you look good doesn’t mean a man want you for a relationship. Most men want an like regular girls. The all dolled up is for fantasy purpose. Men know when a woman dress half naked, wearing tight clothes is to catch them. It’s all shouting “I just want sex”.
I notice majority of black woman breed up for men who most of the time isnt ready. Get a ring and pop a baby out. All of these miserable people are being born through lust and no real commitment.
If you as woman dont have a man personal business such as his social or passport you aint nothing to him. Be cautious.