What makes them stay? The women below tell.
Sharon S, 44:
I’m not going to say it never happened. It happened. But I was so young and foolish, plus I was not working and had my daughter to take care of. I sat down in it for almost two years before I spoke about it. I told my brother and he gave the man some rahtid lick! But I was so foolish that I was vexed about how my brother handled him. I didn’t speak to my brother after. Then my lover beat me after accusing me of having another man. So after that the police got involved and I left.
Elaine D, 43:
My friends used to tell me to pay someone to kill him, or boil hot oil and throw in his ears when he was sleeping, but I never had the heart to do that. Every time he put his hands on me I used to tell myself that what goes around comes around, and that he would feel it one day. At that time we had been married for over seven years. Now 17 years later I’m married to somebody else who wouldn’t even think of putting his hands on me, and my ex won’t stop calling me to borrow money. So you see? I’m happy and prospering and he’s suffering.
I was afraid of him so I didn’t try to hit him back. Plus I had the pickney dem and I didn’t want them to think that two wrongs make a right.
Crystal J, 52:
Boy, it looks like it’s just those types of men I attract — the ones who love to beat women. I don’t know why. I’ve been with three different men who felt that to control a woman they had to lick her down. I tried to help myself but I can’t manage a man. But one thing I can tell women, don’t bother stay and let him tell you ’bout him going to change, or that if you don’t do anything to provoke him he won’t hit you. From a man realise that he can get away with it, he will beat you.