I was lean, weak ’cos my menstruation refused to stop but my husband kept demanding for sex’
love weak‘I’m getting lean and feeling weak because my menstrual flow has ceased to stop, but my husband cares less. He keeps demanding for s3x and threatens to take another wife if I fail to meet his s3xual need. ‘
‘I threw a party on her behalf during her last birthday and got her loans to boost her business but to my surprise, she still complains I no more love and care for her.’
A woman, Bunmi Adegbite, has approached Oja Oba/Mapo Court C Customary Court, Mapo, Ibadan, Oyo State, seeking to put an end to her 14-year-old marriage to her husband, Adewuyi Adegbite.
Bunmi in her divorce suit accused her husband of lack of love, care and neglect. She thus appealed to the court to dissolve their union. She further prayed it to grant her custody of the only child in their marriage.
She stated thus:”My lord, I walked out of my marriage because my life and that of my child are important to me. My other reason is that my husband no longer loves me.
“Our marriage had been blissful until two years ago when he started misbehaving. He started spending money lavishly and on frivolities. He suddenly stopped me from cooking his meals without giving any cogent reason for this.
“I reported him to his mother who showed surprise at his decision and promised to talk to him. She did and this spurred anger in him. He accused me of discussing our marital issues with a third party and insulted me in the presence of people who were in the car with us. The more I begged him, the more he insulted me. Our relationship turned sour from that moment and we have been living like cat and mouse.
“I started encountering health challenges not long after then. First, I woke up in the middle of the night and discovered my right hand and right leg had no sensation. I sensed it was stroke. I was afraid and woke him up but he failed to show as much concern as was expected.
What happens when you stop having s3xx
“Again, I discovered that after having s3x with him, I always felt a hand trying to strangulate me in my sleep. While still battling with this, I started experiencing a continuous flow of my period. I gradually became lean and weak because I was losing much blood. I went through several tests and did a scan but nothing was found to be wrong with me.
“While facing these ordeals, my husband showed little or no care. He cared less and didn’t ask questions even when he saw me taking drugs consistently.
“My lord, aside these, we started seeing snakes, termites and bats in the house which was terrifying.
“Few months after my menstruation stopped, it started again. I told my husband but he mocked me. I went back to the hospital for further treatment. Despite my pitiable state, he kept demanding for s3x. He fought me and told me to leave so that he could bring in a new wife if I couldn’t cope with his s3xual demands.
“He told me to go with him to a Celestial church for spiritual attention but I declined because I don’t believe in them.
“My parents, seeing that I was dying, came for me and our child. They packed my belongings and that of our child from his house.
Few days after we left, he brought in a new wife, “she said.
“My lord, I don’t pray to divorce my wife, but if she’s insisting on leaving me, then let it be, “Adewuyi said.
“We have always had a lovely relationship until of recent. We never fought; neither did we have a third party interfering in our differences.
“We both pulled our resources together to build our house and buy the car presently in our pocession because we love each other dearly.
“We started encountering the presence of termites, snakes and bats in the house because it is located in a new area with bushes all around. We were able to kill the snakes except the last one which went into hiding.
“I’m surprise she’s complaining of lack of love and care. I took her to the hospital when she was menstruating non stop and was responsible for her medical bills.
“When she complained about a hand always attempting to strangle her in her dream, I advised we resorted to prayer but she didn’t show much interest.
‘My lord, she accused me of not being caring but she has forgotten I threw a party when she marked her last birthday.
“I also made it my duty to drop her at her work place and our son in school every morning with our car.
“In addition to these, I have collected loans for her in my name to boost her business.
“I’m not diabolic al and never sought evil for her. I also want to state that I didn’t take a new wife.
“My lord, she can have custody of our son as she had requested, “the defendant stated.
Ruling after he had listened to both parties, the court president, Chief Ademola Odunade dissolved their wedlock.
He gave custody of their child to the plaintiff and ordered the defendant to pay the sum of N5, 000 monthly as their child’s feeding allowance.
He was also mandated to be responsible for his total welfare, education and health most importantly.