Oyibo woman Deana Charles said she was left humiliated when she found her Nigerian groom texting another woman just half an hour after their wedding. Then he admitted he only married her for a visa. Story as reported by The Sun UK. Read below…
Sales assistant Deana, from Tiverton, Devon, met Ben, 25, on a dating site in 2010. She was instantly attracted to his looks and was hooked after he struck up a flirty conversation with her.
“My whole world came crashing down when I found out my marriage was a fake. I loved Ben with all my heart. We’d made loads of plans for the future and he seemed desperate to start a family
“I wasn’t serious about finding love, I’d only signed up for a bit of a laugh. As soon as I saw Ben’s picture, though, I was smitten. He had gorgeous brown eyes and a great body — just my type. We started chatting and he explained he’d come to the UK from Nigeria to study for a business degree. I couldn’t imagine being so far away from my family and friends and I told him he was really brave.”
Ben was persistent online and was keen to meet up as soon as possible. Deana was nervous at first but, three months after they started talking, she agreed to travel to London to meet him for a day of sightseeing. She continued:
“It was the perfect first date. Ben took me to see Big Ben and we went to the National Maritime Museum in Greenwich. As soon as we shared our first kiss I could feel myself falling for him.
He asked me to stay for a few days and I said yes. It felt like I’d known him for ages.”
Days turned into weeks and, after a fleeting visit home to pick up some belongings, Deana agreed to move in with Ben in Catford, South East London.
“I was surprised when he asked me to move in with him so soon but I was also really excited. But my mum was really concerned that I was giving up everything for someone I’d only just met.Some of my friends said the same. No one was completely sure of him. I just shrugged off their concerns because I was convinced he was the right man for me.”In August 2011, six months after they first met in person, Ben popped the question.
“Ben asked me to marry him while we were having breakfast at home. It wasn’t very romantic. He didn’t even get down on one knee, but he did buy me an imitation diamond ring. I was shocked he wanted to marry me so soon but I was completely in love.”
Though she’d dreamt of a big, romantic wedding, Ben was determined to wed as soon as possible. So Deana agreed to a register office wedding in January 2012, with a low-key reception at a local Chinese restaurant.
“My family were concerned but they all turned out and supported me. When I walked down the aisle Ben told me I looked stunning. And I meant every word of my vows.”After the ceremony, Deana urged Ben to call his family to tell them the good news.
“He was reluctant to get his phone out. He eventually agreed to call his mum but when I looked over his shoulder at the screen, a message flashed up from a girl. She’d texted Ben to tell him she loved and missed him. My legs turned to jelly as I remembered she was his ex-girlfriend in Nigeria. was in pieces but Ben begged me for another chance. He said he’d only text her because of last-minute nerves. I didn’t want to storm out of my wedding so, after lots of tears, I let it go.”
“I wanted to wait a few years before getting pregnant as I was still worried about the message. But Ben was determined to be a dad. I thought it was his way of showing he was serious. We tried for a baby but we struggled to conceive.”
13 months into their marriage, Deana borrowed Ben’s laptop and her worst fears were confirmed.
“My heart stopped when I saw he’d been sending messages to a girl on a social network site and she had sent him explicit pictures. Ben told her he loved her and wanted a baby with her. Minutes later I received a message from the girl — she felt so guilty, she’d messaged me to come clean.”
Devastated Deana confronted Ben.
“When he realised there was no way back, he told me he’d only married me for a visa. It explained why he’d been so keen to get me pregnant — the authorities would find it harder to deport him.”Disgusted Deana packed her bags, returned to Devon the next day and filed for divorce. After two years, Ben finally agreed to it. Deana says:
“I felt relieved. Looking back, I realise how naive I was. Ben was due to finish his degree when he proposed, which meant his student visa would expire. He had to get me up the aisle as soon as possible.”
Deana, who has not spoken to Ben since their divorce and no longer knows where he lives, says:
“It took me a long time to trust another man but I have recently met someone and am trying to move on.”
Ben says:
“My mate used to send me dirty pictures of girls he was seeing. I knew my wife would get jealous if she saw them on my phone so I got rid of them or sent them to my email. She must have checked my email that day and then found the pictures.”
This fat cow seems to have low self-esteem (no disrespect to fat women) for her to fall in love and marry so quickly. I can’t blame the Africans and other immigrants who prey upon these desperate women. In my field we emphasize due diligence and professional skepticism and I think these women who marry foreigners should adopt this mentality.
Did this big cow say “he had a nice body”? Why do these big body bitches think someone who works out, eats clean and takes care of him/herself is going to want you with your flaps all over the place, unless they are after something that’s beneficial to them?
I mean, I see this all the time, not just white women. These unattractive women seek out men that are way above them on every scale imaginable and somehow idiotically convince themselves that they love them. No, you are being used for whatever benefit is being derived from being with you.
Get a damn grip!
Foxy and Wizwise, what a pity the way you body shame a woman. What does her size have to do with him hurting her? Slim girls and women with perfect bodies get hurt and deceived by men too.
Your humiliating comments about her weight and shape was not necessary.
Yes. We know she was naive and too easily trusting and totally off point with understanding a Black man and even his culture (( polygamy is the norm in Africa).
This groom got something out of the marriage and so did she… Probably a nice, big firm African cock, great loving and the comfort of companionship while it lasted.
The lesson is, don’t jump into too fast.
I got nothing from the story that blamed her weight and appearance for her relationship failures.
It is because of people like you two that a lot of women suffer from low self-esteem; because instead of supporting each other,we draw other women down because of their appearances etc.
Good assessment.
As I was reading it I said it was a bad experience, but at least she got something good out of it as well. Anybody can be deceived, many of us just have not met the A-class manipulator who would make us reconsider just how savvy we think we are.
Wouldn’t be surprised if both Foxy and Wizwise are both overweight, with big protruding gut and flat ass. This is just a way for them to feel better about themselves by putting down others. Foxy and Wizwise, send in your pictures so that we can confirm our worst fears that you are just as fat as the pictured bride.
Wizwise is a man, lol. Too bad I don’t fit your description. I clearly added a disclaimer that I have nothing against fat women. She is clearly FAT and a COW is prized around the world as a symbol of prestige and wealth. How is this body shaming again? Fat people too sensitive, breathe…
In my opinion, real men do not talk about women using such derogatory terms. Men like Wiswize disgust me. A gentleman is raised to have respect for women in general. Without any apparent provocation u jus get up an call this lady fat cow.
Shame on you
If you are reading this, before you get excited, know that I am not one of those fat, sensitive people that you are accustomed to. I’m just a young lady who is now praying that if she ever has a son, at the very least he’ll have a certain gentleness towards women
From the beginning she said that she “was attracted to his looks, brown eyes, and his great body”. So, for her it was physical attraction on her part, not his. It is clear she wanted him for whatever comes with being desperate, lonely, maybe curious, and not being blessed in the looks and weight departments, on her part. He knew all those things about her, and played along to get what he wanted. Miss Lady, mi really sorry about what happen to you, but you were taken for an immigration ride. He never loved you from the start. Just remember M’dear that what goes around, comes around. As mi Madda would say, “yu see a man’s face, but you don’t see him heart”. Wish you the best as you move forward with your life.
Why the fat shaming. Please stop it.the woman body weight isn’t immoral it is what the guy did.
Fat cow? U ppl cannot be humans unnuh heart full a hate. I don’t see anything wrong with the woman and any woman can fall victim to some guys game or the other way roun. Not even a ounce of empathy u ppl jump and start talk at the woman self esteem lik u know her personally. But what really raaang wid humans deep days no humanity.
Poor thing, should have followed you first instincts and that of your family as well. Well we all live and learn, at least you get out as soon as him tell you wah him want. Ain’t no rule seh a fat woman can’t have a man wid a mean and lean body…dah sh**te is a stereotype, gwan look fi wah u want until u get it yah my girl, u hab slim men all bout wah want dem total opposite, body and soul. But a suh it guh, some will lie, cheat and abuse, that is just the way some are..She shouldah report him pan tap a it..
This is sad, but the woman body size and shape do not have anything to do with it, Shame on anyone who criticize her for her body weight. This must be hurtful for anyone who have been so greatly deceived, that is what we need to do, give our sympathy or comment on the situation, not fat shame the woman, it not the correct thing to do. Some people nice and slim and good looking but dem breath can kill, kmt!
Why this always happen to fat ,ugly woman , low self esteem you want look good man and you don’t stay good ,there is a place called Gym ,no body walking round with a pig ,so when him did a tell you how much you sexy and pretty who you believe him or the Mirror, kmft
Hush Up…you should just simply do that!you and the other low life people who are insulting this woman.Shame on all of you and I hope one of your children grows up to be ‘fat’ and see how you’re going to feel when they get picked on and insulted for no reason! SMDH
I write what I want ,do you know me and any one else that made a comment since you are so high life way the f**k you doing on pinkwal commenting on other ppl business ,@ God bless ,leave that to me and all the other lowlifev,don’t hate us cause u fat and stay bad and hate the word fat ,stop eat the burger a and fries ,go cook and eat healthy and clean ,blend up your vegetables and drink ,I do stop hate with u piggy self a baaayyyy the gym is calling