HMID pinky. I want to advice all these fathers to take care of their children. You may never know what they will become in life. My mom has four of us but three with my father. I am the eldest. When they separated my father told my mother that she would have to give us away one by one like puppy, at the time I was 12 my little brother 8 and my little sister 3. I would always reach out to him. Not for things but to just see him and not even that he would do. I got signed to do 8 subjects and when I was suppose to pay for them he promised to help both he and his brother and neither of them did they stopped taking my mother and I calls. My mom had to swallow her pride and beg from church members to friends and family abroad. I did all my subjects and passed all in Range one’s and two’s. I went to 6th form got 7 cape subjects and went to Shortwood teachers college where I graduated with first class honors it was there that I met now husband. I just completed my masters.
I will be graduating from uwi November. My younger brother is now in the army and my little sister who is 19 is getting ready for training school to become a police officer. I am doing well as a teacher. My father is now literally changing us. He doesn’t even have my phone number. We all take care of our mother because she raised us alone and always tried her best. As for my father he can’t get a red cent from me. We are the children u said our mother would have to give away like puppies. Your two daughters and your only son. I always tell my husband that my father is the first man who broke my heart. Men take care of your children! As I am writing this I am getting emotional. Love your kids and not just their mother. If they can’t get the mother anymore they don’t care for the kids. Thanks be to God all three of us came out well and to something. My mother told me to throw a life insurance for him but I am not doing it. Let the government bury him. Thanks pinky.
Learn forgiveness sister.
Let government bury him … really ?
Remember you might have children of your own, you don’t know how they will turn out .
Wickedness and anger for an elderly nuh get yuh far
Give him if you can. Hating him will only eat away at your happiness….my five cents
Help him only with food and medication, nuttin else. Mek him live long enough fi nyam him condemnation.
Don’t give him the cash….buy them and give or send them go give him
Don’t give him shit!!!!!!!
Sister, I feel your pain. But what you are doing is like drinking poison and expecting your father to die. That’s all that hatred, bitterness, and being unforgiving does to a person. If your mother can forgive him after all that she has been through then please find it in your heart to do so too.
Sender, I feel you. My father kicked me in my face and almost blinded me in one eye. All the blood vessels bursed in my eye and everytime I look in the mirror I’m reminded of all the mental and physical torture. He never took care of us, I was diagnosed with PTSD and severe depression in undergrad so it took me a while to graduate. While I was in college struggling intellectually and emotionally he cursed me like a dog and said I was in school to be a obeah woman. When I finished school and landed my dream job he was there to collect. He eventually pushed me to the point where he no longer matters but the anger and hate is still prevalent. Hopefully you can find peace with your dad and the situation, but I’m telling you it’s hard.
Sender I understand your situation. My father who have never supported me growing up is now in contact with me because my grandmother gave him my number. He lives in England and I live in the states with my husband and son. We have conversation on WhatsApp every now and then because I believe he was trying to have a relationship with me because he missed out on my life. I was naive to think he was being genuine. my birthday was last month and I did not hear from him which is fine but what is bothering me is that he messaged me this week asking for money so he could have a birthday party next month. I was in shock because I cannot believe this man really asking me for money. if you cannot afford a party why have one? he didn’t even invited me to the party only want me to put money towards it. I’m not mad at him just disappointed. Is it a Jamaican mentally or just how certain people think?
I think it’s a Jamaican thing.