Dear Pinky…HMID. Now my bf and I are not together for over a year now. He cheated on me and I caught him and the girl and he chose her over me and even put his hands on me in front of her. He and her continued their merry relationship but after that there was never any going back for me. It was hard to deal with the rejection but eventually I got over it. Bwoy, time really heals. Fast forward to now, we have no arguments, I’m cool, I’m in a happy place and he seems to think I want him back. I use to go alone with to see him with my son, mind you, I don’t get out my car, I just unlock the doors and he takes him out and leave. Since of lately, he is starting to jump in and tries to kiss me and ask for s*x and I literally have to fight him off. So now I take my kids with me, my mom or friends. Or leave my son with my mom and he goes to pic him up. I’ve even moved a half hour away cuz he used to just show up. I’ve spoken to him about it, my mom talk to him.
I don’t want to get my male family involved but it seems I may have to. BTW him start use money to try to phase me, giving me more than I need each week for our son. After the big blow out last year he started buying stuff instead of giving me the money and now he realized nothing bothers me, he now wants to give me money instead.
I just want to live in peace. I’m not gonna lie even after that shame it was still hard getting over him. I guess it was the sudden rejection. I questioned my self worth for a while but with counseling and time, I’m finally good. I don’t want a war between us I do want our child to see us living good so I don’t want to drag any police or bad man business in this. I just want him to stop and leave me alone. I hope the girl from that night realize a who me a talk and tek him back if them leff. What am I to do?
PS. I can’t always leave our son with my mom for him to pick up cuz she lives some distance away from me and she just start find her age.🤣🤣 and my daughter is involved in every sport you can think of. I’m often alone… I can’t continue to live like this.
I’m just so glad that you found the strength to move on from all of that, that alone deserves commendation.
I’ve been there- sometimes when someone puts you through a whole heap of pain, it is just the recollection of that pain that stops you wanting to go back.
I hope everything else works itself out for you; but again, well done, and try to remain strong.
U no what u do, mek u male relatives get involve, because he will not listen to you, he thinks he can do as he feels like with no repercussions, mek one a u big bad strapptin uncle drapes him inna him clothes mek him no himself, or else ur problems have jus begun, till it may lead to him hold u down, tek my foolish advise young lady
If you’re really serious then do the exchanges at an access centre. It would be court ordered and it can be a long process. Communication must strictly be by email and only respond if it’s pertaining to your son. In case of any emergencies, have him phone your mother. Hopefully, he ain’t a nut job. Good luck!
Im currently similar situation, my boyfriend broke up with me after many years all because I phoned the other woman and found out about his nasty little tricks. Its the first time he’s ever told me he doesn’t love me or wants to be with me. He has gone public with the next woman. The way he dealt with me and satuation stocked me. It will be a hard road cause we have a little boy but i hope one day i will be in a happy place again.
I’m highly empathetic, so just reading your comment made tears come to my eyes.
I pray that you gain strength and God carries you through this.
Blessings.
Don’t look back dear,i know from experience that it’s really hard to brush yourself off and pull yourself up after a bad break up especially when you were rejected , disrespected infront on the other woman or there is a child involve.my dear do whatever it takes to get him away from you(you don’t want to be a statistic).use whatever method police , hot head uncle or brother or you go down family and apply for a restraining order ;then him will see that your serious.them too bright acting as if we women have no feelings
#Woman power#
After all that humiliation ,especially put his hands on you in front of another woman. Girlfriend that alone tells it all PLEASE DON’T GO BACK
He will think you are weak to him and he can do whatever he wants with you.Hope the other girlfriend dont be feeling good about what he did to you cause it will do the same to her.KARMA is there.just be strong.
Lady all you have to do when talking to this man is to adopt a serious tone, no skinning up and laughing with him at this point until he understand himself. Let him also know that you have moved on and there is no prospect of you both getting together again. You dont have to scream or shout, just be calm .Don’t let him touch you in any friendly way, tell him not to do so as you do not appreciate it and make you feels as if you are being violated. You have to be serious and consistent. More than likely he has little respect for you and think you will have him back. Be careful and good luck.
PS. If all of that does not work, the last resort is to let him know that if he does not stop and continue to harassing you he will not see his child.
A story like that happen in California the other day.The mother would drive half way from the valley to meet the at Hawthorne police station.she chose the police station for the father to meet her to pickup and drop off the baby..Do you know the last dropoff the father gun down the mother at the police station infront of a police officer smh. Sender becareful let him know your not interested in rekindling nothing,let the male family member talk to him or get a restraining order in place.
Yuh fraid a him??? Run di dutty boi yuh shuddnt even mek him come close enuff fi even a try kiss yuh… A suh seerus yuh supposed to a be…ie look like yuh want di feel up all waah gwan mi naaa look :rolleyes: