HMID…. Good Night. in need of some advice.
My bf and I met a year ago, however when we met he was honest to tell me he’s in a relationship with someone who’s living in the US, I didn’t mind him having a gf since that meant I won’t have to be committed or answer to anyone. we started out just fine and by fine I mean things moved so fast that before I knew it I was living with “ANOTHER WOMAN MAN” or atleast that’s what I thought. one day he said that he’s going back to his hometown and would like me to join him that he didn’t want to leave me. I was a bit resilient @ first but I decided to go with him since I have a Sister that lives about 30 mins from him I decided to stay with my sister and he stayed at his family’s residence. two weeks after our arrival I asked him if I could pierce my nose and he said no, I went ahead anyway and peirced my nose because I really didn’t need his permission I was just trying to be nice. the following morning he video called me and saw the piercing, the way the nigga acted was like he caught me cheating, nigga cut the call and blocked me directly, I was confused because I mean it’s just a nose piercing right? an hour later he contacted me and started accusing me of cheating on him, I’m lying to him, y can’t I come out and tell him I have someone else. his allegations started to hurt me because I wasn’t cheating so I just told him “look, if u wanna break up with me just say so but don’t be accusing me of shit u ain’t know of”. while talking to him a notification came to my phone from fb that he got a new msg. ps he had given me one of his phones after mine broke. i decided to tap on the notification and guess what? it took me straight to Google to his msgs and boy did I have a read. that’s when I found out that the reason he went back home was because his woman from the US was flying In and he had to go pick her up from the airport. I sent screenshots to him and he was like ” I was gonna tell u when the time comes” like wtf?? when the time comes? he was suppose to make that known to me before he told me he wanted me to go to his hometown with him.. 2 days later my matey flew in. after that the man I been living with is now like a ghost. I don’t get to see him, his phone is always ringing out, he’s returning calls days later and when he does it’s for a min or less. I was so hurt and mad @ myself I started drinking and I don’t use alcohol. the humiliation got out of hand when my sister came home and said she saw him with a Big woman and a child averaging about 14. I decided to go back into his fb again and view his girlfriend page since I didn’t know what she looked like and my sister Confirmed that that’s who she saw. the woman he told me he’s in a relationship with is a 48year old married woman with 2 teenage daughters.. I was lost for words. my bf is 28.
Fast forward.. we traveled back and started living g together again. He made it clear to me that he is no longer with her and that it’s only me now. You Can call me boo boo da fool cause boy did I believe him. he wasn’t with her anymore but he started talking to other females.. one day I had his phone and I saw a msg from a “KIM” saying I miss u. I confronted him about it and he said I ain’t see right that he and Kim are only friends nothing more. He went as far as to tell me Kim is a lesbian. Lol.. well they say without trust you can’t build a relationship so I decided to trust him and left the story alone. One day he had to leave his phone with me so I could’ve taken care of some business for him while he was @ work, while searching his contacts for a name I realized that Kim was nolonger in his phone. I started to think, if he said he and her have nothing going on why would he delete the # or change the name. So I started to dig, that’s when I realized his phone records all his convos.. all I had to do was remember a date that I knew she called him and listen to the recordings and boy was I right. He changed the name to ‘CUZ’. So after I listened to the recordings I confronted him,
I started shouting @ him calling him a liar. D boy tun round a punch me in mi face and burst my lips. He left and went out probably think what he should do, what game he should play. He came home round 2 in the morning and decided to put an ass whipping on me.. I’m talking punch, choke, slammed my head into the back of the chair while he doing all this saying ” you think I ain’t know you is f**k around”? The audacity of this nigga. I caught him in the wrong and I was the one that got my ass kicked.
He telling other females he love them and want relationship while he be laying up with me and I’m not suppose to say anything. That day I had his phone, I realized he texting some 50 year old females n shit too. I think he’s an opportunist since these older women be living in England and US. Just that lately the abuse has gotten. Worst and idk what to do. I don’t even know where I stand in the relationship and he’s someone that doesn’t like to listen to his partner. I honestly don’t know what to do because I have grown to love him before the abuse start and now it’s so hard to walk away. Confuse and need advice
HMID…. Good Night. in need of some advice.