Dear pinky,Been with my husband for the past six years in march had a miscarriage later found out i had pcos ,then my husband started to drift away from me ,he went to america for six weeks came back a completely different person he was the loving man i once knew things was finally working out a month after i got a message from a girl stating she’s carrying his child with receipt and all i was torn to pieces day in day out i kept crying ( still am ) confronted him about it he lied at first then i found out its not only one but he already has a 1 year old that i didn’t know about i was even more stressed ,i tried to leave but my mind won’t let me i keep thinking if only i gave him a child earlier he wouldn’t be doing this ,i still wanna try i still want it to work because this is the man a plan to spend my life with but he tearing me apart ,Pls i need some advise on wat to do ?? Should i stay or leave ….
What’s with all the low self esteem women? Since you need advice; go buy a dildo and put your husband’s name on so you won’t have to worry about anything. Kmt
What’s with all the low self esteem women? Since you need advice; go buy a dildo and put your husband’s name on it so you won’t have to worry about anything. Kmt
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Why would you blame yourself for his character flaws? You got married to a low calibre man and that is the long and the short of it, if you want to stay with him for the rest of your life be prepared to die before him, because that is all the stress will do to you, send you to a quick grave.
I honestly do not know why you feel he is the best that you can do and that this is what you deserve in life. He impregnated not one, but two women that you know of. Who told you that this is what marriage is? You are in this marriage with yourself, you said yourself that his entire attitude towards you changed, so he does not even treat you well, as a wife should be treated by a loving husband, so I ask you again what exactly are you fighting to hold on to here? Because your marriage is still fairly young by standards, and if you have gone through so much already I do not want to see what more he has in store for you.
Why don’t you do a trial separation for a minimum of six months to see how you feel. He has already checked out of the marriage and has spiritually divorced himself from you so a request to separate to me is fair on your part. Then during your separation go on a vacation to one or all of your bucket list destinations. Just go away for a change of scenery and to change the stagnant energy surrounding you and him. Accept dates from other men and do the things that you have always wanted to do, but kept putting off. If after the separation period and investing in yourself you still feel the need to continue the marriage, go to marriage counseling before trying to mend anything.
Keep in mind that when you choose to stay in these marriages you will never know true peace in a sense. Every time he is late from work the first thing that will come to your mind is to wonder if he is cheating. It is a very stressful way of living and with your condition stress is a no-no. If you choose to stay with him you will have to find a way to free your mind and carry on. Take up an exercise program and a spiritual practice that you can do daily.