People please lend your support…nuh badda wid di put down thing because a lot of women find themselves in this..These men are real predators
I got married some time last year, during our time of dating he told me he’s not legal in America. Before we got married everything was great, we saw each other often despite the distance, communication was great late nights and early morning. Something tragic happened before getting married and I was done for a while. Time came around we got married, nothing extravagant. Right after the wedding there it started, females popping up out of nowhere we spoke about it and let’s say things changed.
As the months past things started getting worst, less phone calls, not seeing each other as often or not at all(didn’t live together) birthdays were a disaster, females calling to find out who am I. What do I do about this we just got married??
No paper work was done for legal status but plans are always been made to do paperwork. Kept trying to work out things the “D” word came up a few times, counseling was suggested nothing happened. Everyday its an argument over something (being unfaithful),I ask why did we get married so many times and the answer is always “because I love you”. At this point things are like dealing with a “deadbeat baby daddy”. No paper work has been started as yet because of financial problems and maybe negligence but the only paperwork I would love to see is Divorce.
It’s like how does one go about and treat someone like this? Someone that tried to help you? Someone who was always there for you when all those friends you say you have didn’t even care about you? It makes me think twice about ever helping someone again(not referring to marriage just general help). This has taken a toll on my body emotionally, physically, socially and financially.
Ladies please be careful of the men we allow in your lives. I’m learning so many things now that I didn’t know prior to jumping the broom. Men who were “sexually or physically abused” as a child are the hardest to deal with especially if they haven’t had any therapeutic help, so please open our eyes instead of our hearts to these predators.
I know I’m going to be able to put all of this behind me one day and heal from all this but it’s going to take some time.